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Hey all, I was just wondering if there was anyone, anyone at all who's in to wharing diapers?
I like to be changed by a girl and have girls say diaper in sentences
shrug, mine are still weirder. :d it is difficult for people like us to get to grips with what we're into and why and how that effects our sexual relations with others. I been there, if you wana chat about stuff, hit me up.
Ugh. Ok. interesting. I've heard of this sort of fetish before, but I've never actually met any one who has that.
So, you use adult diapers? Have you found much luck actually finding partners who willing participate in the fetish with you? Do you actually use the diaper--You know what I mean... or, is it just an accessory to sex? I guess I just like to learn about people and why their into the various things that are out there. Especially if I myself couldn't see myself interested in the various things...
Just trying to be understanding and to keep an open mind.
I use them daily. I have't found anyone else yet, but can't hurt to look.
It is quite unusual for me to give negativity about what people like and don't like. Hell I like things people would cringe at. However, I must say that that is just sick. I didn't say "you're sick" I said "that's sick." I hope you understand the difference. Is it difficult to find women who want to change you? I'm not a woman but, diaper diaper diaper.
I'm done because I was a bad margorp.
You can shear your thoughts about this, everyone has their own opinions.
I can admit to this. But I don't do anything except ware them. In a sence now adays diapers should be looked at as a convenience, and not a stigma. Isn't it better then going to that disgusting rest room in the gas station, or train station for that matter? Many people grose out over them, but I never did. Don't think its sick at all their is much worse. I could see where it would ruin a relationship if the person did not understand.
I agree 100%.
Not into that but I'd love to wear one, poop in it, and fling it at people who annoy me. Haha.
I'm always interested in learning what turns people on. I enjoy hearing about all different kinds of fetishes, even if I myself am not in to them. I'm not in to diapers at all, but I'm not going to judge anyone for being in to them. I've been judged for being in to the stuff that I like as well, and I know how it feels.
Yeah, sucks balls huh Anthony? No pun intended.
wow. surprised the open minded responses that have come up here. I admit I expected a bit more condemnation. I'm afraid I can't exactly come out as to what I'm into for reasons of personal integrety online and because the zone has too many connections to my rl, but anyone curious about sexology and paraphilic fetishism feel free to private message for a chat. I've got friends who are all over the map and make even me look normal! :d
Will be sure to do that, you don't have to poast if you don't want to.
Ivanjc got a tip for you. Get some baby oil, put some in the diaper for some loob makes it more intense.
I'm not in to diapers, but I'm a big fan of lube. LOL.
I'm not in to lube, makes me feel wierd.
that? makes u feel weird? smh
Yeah, pretty wierd. Guess I like it the all natural way.
There is no way in hell I would change a shitty diaper on a grown man when he is capeable of using the toilet. Damn, freakin weird...
Not quite grown yet, but a big boy!
Any woman have fetishes?
iwwwww at the original poster.
seriously?
you'd put me off even coming near you...
to all you people who are put off/grossed out by this, OK, so you don't share that common interest with him, but I'm sure there are many things about you that people don't partake in. does that mean they shouldn't come anywhere near you because they don't get how you could do whatever it is that you do? come on. He posted this topic asking if anyone else shared this feddish, and if so, could they chat? It's not like he posted asking all the girls on the site to go put on diapers and then send him recordings of it. Yes, I've heard of people doing that; not with that particular feddish maybe, but with others like it. I'm all for posting your opinion, but until absolutely none of your interests or behaviors put *anyone* off, none of us have any room to talk, and this guy is being very open about what he likes, which, although I personally can't relate to this feddish, I find his confidence quite admirable.
O, and by the way, if you're going to take the time to post that it's gross/disgusting/whatever you think it is, then why not take the few extra words to post your reasoning for this. it's easier to respect an opinion if there appears to be a reason for it. For example, if you said: That's disgusting because soiled diapers smell really bad after awhile, and I just couldn't stand smelling that odor when there's no baby around. I'd respect that a lot more than just, that's gross!
Everyone judges; I get that. Anyone who says: "I don't judge" is either trying to save face, or they don't really know what it means to judge. But we all judged based on whatever we've sensed from a person, combined with whatever knowledge we think we possess. You don't go around saying: That person is the dumbest lowlife on the planet. O, I don't know how I know. I just know. Very few people are going to take you seriously if you put it that way.
there was a doctor phil episode about a guy who actually would revert to being a baby about 18 months old when he was at home. A girl actually went with this guy. The guy had bought baby clothes in adult size, a highchair for his fettish, and a crib for his fettish. Doctor Phil treated him nicely but the girl who actually thought about marrying this guy was told that the parents would be livid. The guy said he would not change. Why would you get on TV and let your employer see this fettish, along with the whole world? The guy not only wanted the girl to change his diaper but he would spit like a baby too. He said he had absolutely no interest in sex.
I heard about that. I was like WTF? And the really interesting part is that the episode aired the day after the episode about grown men living at home with mom waiting for, as they put it, "a sign."
yeah that is just over the top and stupid.
For some, like the guy on Dr. Phil, it's a fetish. It's more of a kink for others. I know one or two of both types and don't find the people or the activity disgusting, though I've been concerned that the fetish can be permitted to take control; and that's when things can get complicated. I will also say that I am seriously in like with one who describes herself as an adult baby and who loves to wear and use diapers. Think I scared her off, but I learned loads from her while she was still talking to me. Here's hoping she shows up here. She'll have a lot to say if she does.
Ocean Dream: Well, when the poster chatted with me he said he had a medical problem and has to wear diapers. then his conversation got stranger and he asked me how he could change his diaper because a care taker did it and that person was not there. He asked did I think it was strange that he was wearing a diaper and I said no if it was for a medical reason. He continued on asking me how to do it but did not even mention it was a fetish. So he tried to portray himself as a helpless person who had a medical reason and needed help. Anyway, I will say it is gross because it is my opinion. I could care less if people have fetishes but the whole shitty diaper thing is unsanitary, the bacteria alone one has in their poo is bad enough and can cause illness and a grown mands shitty diaper is just nasty to me. Believ me when I say I have been in the bathroom after my husband and oh my Gosh I would throw up if I ever had to change a mans diaper that gross. I don't understand it and don't care to. Thank God I don't live in that kind of fantasy world.
I wouldn't do it, I'm uncertain how to change my niece and nephew who are babies so me changing someone who's an adult I don't think I could do that. I have a lot of respect for nurses and the like that have to do that for people who really can't do it themselves. I'm not in to that, to each his or her own I say...
While I'm not into the whole adult diaper thing, I figure if it makes you feel good and it doesn't hurt anyone, why the hell not and who the hell cares?
Just because it's not something I would necessarily do myself, I'm certainly not going to judge you for doing it.
I think it's not normal. it's sick and groce. just my feelings and i'm sticking to that storey.
not into that either. More power to those who like it though.
Did he suggest his diaper would be shitty? Smile.
The implication is that his girl would change it if it was. That's how it was on Dr. Phil at least. And apparently that girl finally got fed up with it and left him, so he had to find a new family to "adopt" him.
I have to agree with lisa's girl, its sick and gross, and unsanitary. Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't do it, do whatever you want as long as both are willing. But its on the boards, and that's my opinion. I'd say the same about golden showers, its gross and unsanitary. Though slightly less so, since fecal matter is one of the most toxic substances in the human body, and urine is actually sterile, but still. There you have it.
I suppose babies and adults are no different as far as sanitary goes.
I think adults should go to the potty is all. Doesn't seem sexy at all to me, but some folks are in to defacation, so it is what it is as they say.
Personally I'd not change an adult woman unless she were unable. If she's able she'll change herself, get to the pot on time.
I do admit I have learned much on this board as far as what people like and feel is sexy, or sexual. This is sexual right? A turn on?
Ok guys,
I'll be flat out honest.
It is a medical issue that turned in to a fetish.
I have really horrible blatter control issues! You guys happy now?
topics like this to me are fine, but it shouldn't surprise any of you that people are responding with such negative comments. And it is kind of weird but I find that this board ha more flaming going on than any other board I've been on. I'm not talking about just this topic, I'm talking about this entire site....it's kind of embarrassing. Blindies seem to always have this bashing thing going on...
As for me. Well. As for me, I've got a wide array of interests. Problem is I'm too shy to approach anyone about them, and I doubt I'd be able to find someone who is willing to explore different things with me. I'm not into typical things and in fact I've been with guys who pound their meat until it's about to fly off and they end up cumming like 2 drops. Anyway I digress. Keep it street.
Please. If you think bashing is limited to blind people, go look at the comments on some youtube videos, or on people's facebook walls, or on twitter.
Nope blind has nothing to do with this and nothing on it either. Lol
Get behind a keyboard and you can say yo thang! Lol
I'm going to answer your question.
No, it doesn't personally make me happy that you have a medical issue, however, if you post this sort of thing and you are wishing to find it, and you make that wish public, than you can't get mad because people don't agree that it is nice, and want to change your nappy. A want is a want and you won't find people runniing after you say "oh, I have this medical issue to say its okay now, because he has a problem, so sure I'll change him. You can do it yourself, so.
Keep looking, but when you do either look privately, or stand the heat.
Yes, I do have to agree there. I say this a lot, but here it goes again: this is the internet. People will troll you. Sometimes it's funny, and sometimes it isn't, but that's the risk you run.
hmm to the poster asking if women had any fetishes. I'm a lesbian, no i have never had sex, but what always turns me on is the thought of being fucked by a woman wearing a strap on. yes i said strap on, cock, what have you.
i said that once, and someone's like well if you want a cock, go fuck a guy. it's not the point but heh what ever. i'm not obsessed with it i just find it a rather big turn on even though i've never done anything sexually, unless it's cyber, rp sort of stuff.
Nothing wrong with having an opinion; nothing wrong with sharing it. But when you're so set in your ways that you don't think other ways of thinking/doing things should exist, and you openly do what you can to prevent it from existing, you really have some issues.
A fettish is a fettish is a fettish. Some are more bizzarre than others. I admire you for putting something like that on here. I don't think I would be so open about it personally because of what OceanDream said about how people are on the Internet.
O, I totally agree about it being admirable to put something like that out there. But if you want me to be honest, the responses, for the most part, have actually been quite tame compared to some that I've seen in the past.
I agree there. I wish that I could be that open, on here or online in general, but my profession and the way this site links to my RL prevent me from saying openly what I'm into. the net never forgets, as the old saying goes.
At least it's gotten better in terms of what the replys are.
But I seriously do have a medical issue that's why I have to wear them.
It turned into the fetish described in the first poast when I was about 13.
My first girlfriend didn't mind changing me or doing any of that stuff described in poast 1 and that's how it all began. I know that sounds really strange, but that's my life.
Like I said you'll find another one. Just keep looking.
A medical issue is one thing. Andif it turns into more then whateer works for you. I just know I couldn't see myself being turned on by that sort of thing.
I'm one who isn't turned on by this sort of thing; if anything, it's a complete turn-off. but, more power to you if you're into it.
Well I don't count the medical issue. It doesn't make people feel sorry, so they say, "okay lets play!" Sorry, it just does no good. Now saying this is your thing is fine, but you can't get mad after you say thiis is my thing, because folks say "Oh, my God! nasty!" Lol
Medical, or not if you want to play, it is play, and even from the medical stanpoint you'll not find many women willing to change you when you are perfectly able to care for yourself. Now if you're not able to care for yourself, an in this case that isn't the problem, the women that have to change you get paid, other wiise you'd most likely not even get that done offten as it is needed.
Since you are open may I ask what happened to the last girl that would play?
I am noisy, yes.
Nothing happened in terms of that, she moved away and she doesn't believe in long distence relationships.
This is honestly discussing.
Whatever, you have your own opinion.
Everyone's entitled to their opinion and nobody's forcing anyone to hang around here. I draw the line at a certain point too, but you won't find me looking for places to "wear" my opinion on my sleeve. For those who aare disgusted, how many of you really know that some of your neighbors and friends aren't having fun with age play, diapers, urine, or any number of other things that you or I wouldn't care to know about or play at for ourselves?
I agree. we all have our opinions and that's alright. hell you're cool i'll talk, just don't ask me to change you. but i'm always curious...
No worries, you have nothing to fear from this cat. I either know or know of a number of people of both sexes who are active in the adult baby/diaper lover relm. One of them says she's also into wearing her food as well as diapers. For the right girl, I'd try my hand at being parental, though that's not what I'm looking for; and I have no idea how any of that would actually work out.
The first diaper person I ever knew was from a troubled background that makes me think that he was sexually abused at an early age, similarly for another special person in my life recently.
I, too, don't find this disgusting in the least, as long as you don't expect me to be the one to help change you, and as long as there isn't a strong odor. To those of you who find it disgusting, are you disgusted by the feddish itself, or by the idea of getting involved with it? if the former, why is this? I'm sure at least some of you have held a baby before. that baby is most likely wearing a diaper. Are you disgusted by this? Nobody I know is, at least. Even those I know who can't handle the diaper changes just hand the baby back to their mother or father if they become aware that there might be a diaper change in the near future. No harm done. You might say that's different, because the baby doesn't ask for this, but still, nobody's trying to force you to change diapers. That would be the only way I could possibly see this as being disgusting.
the only reason i'd ever ask you to change me is if i trust you enough. I won't ask the first time we meet, we have to trust each other with almost anything and everything.
I'm not disgusted. I don't have to change him.
If he were unable I'd change him in a heart beat, but he'd not like my male "boy you stink!" Lol I'm not a sweet girl cooing.
To the poster, I believe I'd move or get her to come home that girl. She sounds like a keeper and worth getting back for you.
Yeah but she's with someone else. I never said I was picky about who changed me, but if it was a girl then she should coo. But if it's a guy then things just go on as normal.
I'm not changing you dude! You can do it yourself.
Question, does it turn you on if a guy is doing the honors?
First of all forereel, I never asked you to. Second off, no it doesn't.
so, why would you want a guy to do it, then?
I never said I wanted a guy to do it.
I'm no expert on this subject, but it seems diaper people come in a wide variety of orientations personalities, levels of involvement in the life style etc.
What one person likes and who that person wants doing whatever with them or to them is probably as variable as can be.
No you didn't ask me, but you did say you weren't picky about who changed you a guy or a girl, so I just was wondering?
If you can do it yourself I figured you say only a girl would do, and you can do it yourself, so.
Call that girl up and see if she's not liking her boyfriend. I don't think I'd care I'd try to get that one back even if I had to steal her. Lol
thanks for the tip i guess. lol
Going back to what OceanDream said about diapers and babies, and that no one finds them disgusting. Well, frankly, changing a baby is so very different than changing an adult. I don't even know why anyone would compare that. I'm sorry if this comes off as a very strong opinion; It is. I've worked at a nursing home for a couple of weeks and I've had to change two diapers there. Now I've got a four-month-old baby and I change his diaper as many as six times a day. With that said, I guess anyone who says there's not much of a difference between changing a baby and a groan adult has never done either. or both. There's a huge difference. Babies are cute and not wrinkly and not hairy... And yes, their crap stinks, but their diaper doesn't weigh over two pounds and just... No.
Look. simply put, if my partner were to become gravely ill or paralyzed, then yes, I'd change him. Just because I deeply care for him and I would want to be there for him and make him comfortable. But there's no way I'd be turned on by it. And there's nothing saying that I wouldn't find it at least a little disgusting. But I can go on changing my son five, six times a day and it doesn't bother me. So there's your answer. At least my two cents' worth.
I agree with write away; comparing changing a baby's diaper to changing an adult's diaper would be like comparing oranges to apples. they're two very different things/experiences, and yes, one is a whole hell of a lot more disgusting.
Seems to me that the changing thing is mostly a matter of scale.
As for the disgust factor, it's mind over matter. There are a number of sexual practices that many find disgusting or that some find disgusting with one person, oral contact with another's private parts for example, that may be enjoyable with someone else. I doubt we'll solve it here because the whole thing is so subjective, in my opinion.
But that's just it. I asked if you were more disgusted with the idea of changing diapers, or the idea of the feddish; that is to say, someone liking getting changed. I can tell by your answers that you seem to be more disgusted with the act of changing someone. In that case, I totally agree with you. As I pointed out earlier, this doesn't disgust me, *unless* you want me to get involved. And Ivanjk has already pointed out this is not the case. Now, again, I can't possibly imagine how someone could get off to this, but that doesn't mean I think it's disgusting. To all you straight guys out there, do you like to suck dick? of course not. does this mean you think girls and gay guys are disgusting for doing it, or do you just think the act of sucking dick is disgusting to you? Not the same activity, but as suncat0 pointed out, same idea.
Im surprised that ppl haven't brought up the fact that this kid is 16
should we really be discussing this with a minor?
anyhow to each his own but yeh it creeped me out more that a 16 year old was engaging in such dialogue with adults but maybe that is just a sign of how the world is changing.
:p
well put. its not m kink but I know a girl with it and I'm cool with it. if i wa wit someone who had that interest, though, I don't know how I would react. I am a very tolerant person, and if the girl was very accepting of what I am into, maybe I could be the same. But It would be a stretch for me.
I'm willing to bet that most of us didn't have a clue that the original poster is sixteen. It's not like all of us flock over to a person's profile before we decide to post to a thread they started. It just goes to show; On this site, age doesn't really matter. lol That in itself is a little disturbing, but just the same, maybe it's a good thing. Maybe this place is one that a teenager can come to be treated like an adult. Whether that's good or bad varies from circumstance to circumstance. But you can't argue that it's still pretty neat.
It's only bad if you think it is. How many times can a person go to someone in real life and talk about a fetish they have? It's a lot easier to take comments like "that's gross and immoral" if you don't have to literally hear them coming out of someone's mouth, much less people you care about. Telling your partner is one thing, and you could lose someone whether you do or don't, so it's only fair to try. But outside the bedroom, how many people are honestly going to even attempt to be open-minded if a friend or family member comes up to them and drops something like that on their head? It would have to take an incredible amount of trust. I would imagine it would be somewhat like coming out. I say this because I have a close friend who told me about his fetish because he knew I wouldn't judge, and I didn't. I don't understand it, but he has told me in detail how he knows that no one else in his life would accept it. But the beauty of the internet is that it can be a stepping stone. If you say something once, even in writing, it becomes slightly easier to say again. If this guy uses this site as his coming out sanctuary, if you will, who are we to judge that? And as for his age, 16 is a time when people are figuring a whole hell of a lot out about themselves. Sometimes at that age it feels unbearable to keep secrets, no matter how badly you think people will react. So again, saying something online seems so much easier. I know, because I've been there. It's a lot easier for me to write things down than it is to say them out loud.
Thanks to the last two poasts.
well said. I have always thought of telling people as, coming out, indeed. A lot of my friends know and are very ok with it. I have learned to be open over the past few years but it does take a lot of strength and trust between the two parties. As fetishists, we have to put up with a lot of people not willing to accept us.
Well, here's how I look at it. Who needs to know if you have any particular fetish except for a potential partner? Why does your sexuality need to be exposed/known to the general public when it's no one's business but yours and the person you are dating/hope to be dating? It's one thing to feel nervous or hesitant about telling somebody you want to satisfy your sexual needs about your preferences for fear of being rejected. It's another thing to feel like you have to "come out" and make your preferences known to gain acceptance from everybody else. After all, the only people it will have any kind of effect on are you and your sexual partner.
Well to the last post I guess he's looking for a girl not coming out. He had to lay it on the line if he wish to find her, so he did so.
Now to the changing. Shit is shit, babies or adults. In my mind if a baby or adult needs changing I change them no disgust involved. Now if my girl came to me one day and said "honey change me, I get off if you did." Well I'd have to say no. Have to ask her if she really needed this and if her answer was yes, well I'd have to start looking for another companion. Lol
Yes I know I have things I like, but I also have to find a person that agrees as well. What I like might be disgusting to others, but its what I like.
I'd love to think my sexual needs are "normal" but I honestly know some girls that would say no. Not many, but some.
Body elimenation just isn't my thing.
As for his age, well in many societies he's grown actually. At 16 I knew what I wanted to do and what I wanted to try. I was able to make that choice, so he's just making his choice and learning, but he probably knew, it be reacted to like it is.
Nasty! Are you crazy? hahahaha
I have hird of people wereing dipers if you do infact like that kind of thing you minght want to be on the distordid view pod cast with tim.
go look for the pod cast it is distordid he would love to hve you on the show.
let me know if you infact need more information about the pod cast.
thanks
I'm not sure that would be a good idea at the moment lol. Thta show is tongue in cheek and very comedic...if one is not thick skinned it could be a problem. Haha I might consider it, however. I couldn't find contact info for him on that page though.
to the one who called 16 young, and should we be talking about this. we have the right of free speach and most places 16 is the age of consent for a lot of things. so i don't see what the problem is.
Ya that is true
The idea of this totally turns me off, but, if others like it, then each to their own. I have no interest in it, but, for the people that do, they certainly have the right to do it if they wish.
I have to be very careful about what I say here but, having known people who wear for medical and nonmedical reasons and having been seriously atracted to at least one of each, I find myself not put off by most aspects of this topic. Necessity, fun or fetish, it just doesn't matter that much to me.
No need to be careful what you say, just say what you mean and you'll be fine. Lol
That is true very true
Yes it is. We all have things we're into and I personally can't picture getting a thrill out of diapers but that's just me.
I think it's completely disgusting and animal like! I know someone like that too, and, that's just one big no no! I don't even want to meet someone like that you can smell that stuff right? and as a few said on here it's not even sanitary!
and, as another person said these fetishes is none of our business.
sanitary? Got soap? Wash your hands after the change. Lol
Rachel, I hope none of us ever meets you, should you be diagnosed with a medical reason you're forced to wear diapers. you'll probably lose friends, but what does that matter? you wouldn't wanna be friends with someone who wears them, so it doesn't, right?
of course, I don't really have such a narrow minded view, but I'm trying to turn the tables here.
I agree with Dagne Minerva Holmes. I don't understand why so many people feel the need to disclose every bit of there sexuality and fetishes on an online public website. where anyone and everyone can read it. but that's just my opinion.
no, it's fine if you where them for a medical reason, and you wouldn't know if I did or not, maybe I do, maybe I don't. I don't reveal very much except for my opinions. so you don't honestly know all that much about me, and I wouldn't on the internet. so, that will be an unknown and will stay that way. and you couldn't tell by looking at me, I don't make private things very obvious. and, besides, I wouldn't make such irrisponsible request and asking people to change me when I could do it so well myself anyway, and if I couldn't, well I ask people who I know and those are the people who knows my issues, no one else.
But he posted exactly for the reason of looking for a mate, or play partner. He has things he wants, so he put it out there to find a person. Keeping it to himself won't get this done.
So what's so unsanitary about a person who wants to have their diaper changed for a sexual reason as opposed to because of a medical condition? Shit is shit, the cleanliness of it doesn't change just because one person simply wants to be changed and another needs to be changed. Would you say, "oh, I'm not having a baby because changing him or her is so gross and unsanitary!" If so, while I can see some validity to that statement, making distinctions is definitely not cool. It's the same waste products that are being eliminated, whether the person is young or old, or their feelings about it.
Ironically, I understand, but from a completely opposite perspective. Childish things nauseate me, even to the point I will go to great lengths to avoid it. People - adults and children alike - sitting around watching some Barney or Disney type thing, and I will leave or put on headphones. The idea of being helpless like that positively scares the shit out of me, to be honest.
The only difference is, I have been able to manage fine as an adult and even raised a daughter. I was never concerned or put off by changing the diapers or anything, guess I mainly mentally blocked anything out related to it while I just did it, then picked her up again and she would cling on like a baby primate again.
I never allowed my ttotal disgust for any of the babyish or childish things get in her way, even the stuffed animals which I know most kids and even some adults like but for me I'd rather handle inside of a plastic bag if I must at all. To be honest, I used to feel sorry for her being in that helpless state, and understand the desire to get unstrapped from a high chair or out of a crib and be free to mainly run around. Of course as an adult I kept the environment safe, but I understood the need to get up and away from it all. Hell, even as a little kid I was not much into babyish stuff, was generally put off by it all, sort of the way some of you all are put off your food by descriptions of blood and guts.
I understand about the weird responses, because even as a teenager people would be babysitting and play that kind of music and I would just take off, "for no apparent reason." and I never respond like most people do to the so-called cute baby things that men and women normally do. To me those things are at best ho hum, maybe not very understandable, or at worst just puts me off totally.
The wife has called it a aversion. But contrary to what people think, if they find out, I am not a baby hater or something. I held my own right next to my chest inside my shirt to carry her around and keep her warm, and like I said she did like a baby primate and would grip on with hands and feet.
I don't dislike baby humans, am even tolerant about the bodily fluids like the spit up and things, it's just the way you like the objects, I find the objects totally distasteful. Most people don't even know this, I just play it low-key and neutral. People think if you hate the objects, you must hate the babies, so I imagine people probably misperceive your fetish.
If there was a baby in trouble, I would naturally move to protect and help the situation, like anyone else. I do have memories of my daughter being a baby that I hold dear to me, yes, because of who she is. But a strange baby that isn't a daughter or a niece or a nephew, well, I just have no real understanding at all of what people see as cute. As I said, I would do nothing short of helping out a stranger's baby, I never mind holding the baby. I empathize with their need to get away and not be contained in places, or strapped in there.
The only major problems I had was running into a stuffed animal on accident, and what the wife would call the age-appropriate sorts of things, like my baby listening to Slayer or Metallica with me instead of some of their kiddy poo music, or her watching aircraft dogfights with me instead of some kiddy show.
But yeah I have been misunderstood that way: I don't dislike babies, I just have a profound distaste for things we generally associate with babies. Hell, even most foods you give kids when they're younger I don't even like: things that aren't technically baby foods but still. Things like gello, bananas, applesauce or graham crackers I find all very gross and nasty, the way some of you feel about raw fish.
I remember being extremely glad that the wife had ours using the measuring spoons and plastic cupts and scoops and things as toys, for some developmental reasons she understands, and not those other squeaker rubber duckie type toys, though those are far more tolerable to me than anything stuffed. The things that look like dog toys are mainly fine.
But just like you may get misperceived, and yours may be called a fetish, I have been misunderstood as a baby hater or similar things.
I think the main thing with anything you think or are that is outside the norm is to just not allow either a fetish or a strong dislike to bother other people. I mean, in my case, it's not like I would walk off and leave a baby to its own devices, though that baby might get to watch and listen to things outside the suffocating box of what is usually put on them to watch and listen to. And contrary to what others would think, I never minded changing or caring for the baby though I usually was one to do it real quick and efficient and set them free again to play or crawl or do whatever.
Mainly since either your fetish, or my strong dislike, are outside the norm and most people don't understand how you would take steps to use the things, and I take steps to avoid them, you or I simply have to understand most people won't understand, and it's not their fault. And people will see it how they see it, and if it's different from your perspective or mine, they may be right as well. In your case, some people on here may be right about things, even if it's outside your way of thinking. I know I used to get upset when the wife would say I was coping, and some other words like that, about things that had happened when I was younger, by my personal distance from all that stuff, but she's probably right. I don't think there's anything wrong with it so long as I'm not endangering someone else.
When you have kids you'll have to think about this though. I don't know how your situation would work out, being a fetish. I know for me I would just mentaly work myself up to things, and the only times it would come out of left field would be running into a stuffed thing by accident, which for me the stuffed things are the worst. But I just held it together mentally and I don't think the daughter noticed too much, though sometimes the wife said she saw the look on my face or something. I interacted with my baby all the time, I just did different stuff. I even gave her a circuitboard to play with when she was 3, with no loose parts, which she liked playing with. I was more often into getting her cars and mechanical stuff, or if it was dolls would be mainly plastic kind she could make move. That, and the wife was very into wooden toys, another developmental type thing, and wooden stuff was always pretty cool. I admit I don't understand the bliss or comfort of babyhood: it seems like a rather mortifying existence, and to that end I empathized and gave her the best and most free existence I could, probably some would say spoiled, but still. We just are responsible as people who have some difference that goes against the norm, to make the best of it not just for ourselves but people around us. I don't know what steps you have to take in your situation. But I am okay with staying outside or in the garage than be around while people are watching some kiddy pooh thing or admiring some stuffed object, and some people openly comment on that being odd. And when you get into a long-term relationship, she will have her words for it, and maybe she'll be right about some of those things because of what she knows that you don't.
But in the end, no, I don't think you're a perv just like I know I'm not a baby hater.
So why I wrote on this is that I saw some of your things on Taboo. I don't become angry like some peple that you are into that, and probably you think it's strange someone who takes steps to avoid even contact with some of the baby things you are into, would understand you. But what you call safe or secure or all that stuff they showed on that Taboo show, well, some of us for the very same things find it to be maybe a bit threatening. Not threatened by you doing it, only the idea of oneself in that situation, and the objects themselves to be pretty nasty.
Just goes to show everyone's different, and any of us who are odd in one particular way just have to understand how it would be hard for most people to see it our way. And it's up to us to manage our own situation.
My first job was at a daycare center for seriously developmentally disabled kids. Instead of taking kids only up to the age of 3 or 4, they took kids up to 8 years of age, and some of those 8 year-olds still wore diapers. Believe me, changing a shitty diaper on an 8-year-old kid was a hell of a lot messier and stinkier than changing a baby's diaper. I hated having to change diapers on the older kids, and no way would I get involved with a man who wanted to wear diapers and have me change them. Now I suppose it would be different if I were married and something happened to my husband (accident, stroke, etc.) after we had been married for years, I would be able to deal with changing dirty diapers because of the love I would already have for him. But a new relationship with a guy who wears diapers just because he wants to? No freaking way!
First of all, we've alredy covered that I don't do thain in them. second off, I wasn't going to ask you to do that unless I really knew you.
Blue Velvet's right. I had a terminally ill brother growing up, for whom I was almost entirely responsible. Changing shitty diapers is so much worse on bigger people that I sort of had the "That's it?" response when I would change the baby, like it was nothing. To answer Green Turtle's question, it in part has to do with quantity, bigger people lay bigger turds and they eat solid food not just bottles or cut up chereos and things.
And, in real life, the babies don't want to be changed. In fact, I was not very good about interacting during changing, but the wife would talk to her, give her a toy, tell her she was gonna lay her down and change her. Ironically the daughter got to know how I was, would run up, pat herself, say baby and go flop so I'd do it, cause she knew I was just gonna do it real fast, get 'er done and set her free again.
But the baby fakers on that Taboo show aren't very realistic. Granted I'll give you that my perspective on the situation for the young, being all confined like that as being something very unpleasant and something to escape out of, may not be fully realistic either, but the difference is the diaper people and baby people are faking it like some sorts of theatrics or display, but think they are that. If you really were being a baby, you would be trying to get away rather than wanting into all that stuff. I understand a fetish is just a fantasy gone wild, but you're not really a baby, you're pretending to be one. Real moms get upset over the things the adult baby diaper people want their partners to be okay with.
hmm this topic is a bit like going to a carnival of horrors, or finding out someone has a fetish for having their foot cut off with a machete and would someone please chop their foot off. Only then it would be just once, or at most twice. lol
Hi,
Ok, here's my take on this. I'm sort of the exact opposite of leo_guardian. I don't like babies much and dont' want kids. If I were to ever to have a kid, they'd have to be like eight or nine or something. I just never have been a baby person. I don't find them cute, I find them annoying. When they're screaming in a restaurant and the parents don't take them outside, I wanna walk over there and ask the parents to take the kid outside myself. I very quickly get irritated by the yelling and running around that toddlers do.
That being said, I couldn't handle an adult who deliberately chose to act like a baby. I dont' like diapers on 2-year-olds. I dont' mind having a baby around for a day or so and, at one point, I was strongly considering adopting a friends' baby, who I thought was in a bad situation. But I would not find it at all a turn on to change someone's diaper, either adult or kid. Now, if I were with a partner and they had an issue in which I had to change their diaper and i loved them, I'd do it in a heartbeat. But, as others have stated previously, I would change it for the love I have for the person, not for any other reason. So, I find it disgusting and the biggest reason is I just don't like babies anyway and that's one more thing that goes with them. Plus, i find the smell very gross and I can imagine how an adults' would be particularly so. Leo_gardian, I find your theory about them feeling trapped by that sort of stuff, interesting. I had never thought about that and I'd bet, at some points, kids do feel trapped by baby things. That's why, in my opinion, it's good to have a healthy balance, which,it sounds like you and your wife did.
Take Care,
Dawnielle